2019.4.1 己亥二月廿六 周一

      The ways in which transference manifests itself,while always pervasive and destructive,are often subtle.Yet the clearest examples must be unsubtle.One such example was a patient whose treatment failed by virtue of his transference.He was a brilliant but unsuccessful computer technician in his early thirties,who came to see me because his wife had left him,taking their two children.He was not particularly unhappy to lose her but he was deeply attached.It was in the hope of regaining them that he initiated psychotherapy,since his wife firmly stated she would never return to him unless he had psychiatric treatment.Her principal complaints about him were that he was continually and irrationally jealous of her,and yet at the same time aloof from her,cold,distant,uncommunicative and unaffectionate.She also complained of his frequent changes of employment.His life since adolescence had been markedly unstable.During adolescence he was involved in frequent minor altercations with the police,and had been jailed three times for intoxication,belligerence,"loitering," and "interfering with the duties of an officer." He dropped out of college,where he was studying electrical engineering,because,as he said,"My teachers were a bunch of hypocrites,hardly different from the police." Because of his brilliance and creativeness in the field of computer technology,his services were in high demand by industry.But he had never been able to advance or keep a job for more than a year and a half,occasionally being fired,more often quitting after disputes with his supervisors,whom he described as "liars and cheats,interested only in protecting their own ass." His most frequent expression was "You can't trust a goddamn soul." He described his childhood as "normal" and his parents as "average." In the brief period of time he spent with me,however,he casually and unemotionally recounted numerous instances during childhood in which his parents had let him down.They promised him a bike for his birthday,but they forgot about it and gave him something else.Once they forgot his birthday entirely,but he saw nothing drastically wrong with this since "they were very busy." They would promise to do things with him on weekends,but then were usually "too busy." Numerous times they forgot to pick him up from meetings or parties because "they had a lot on their minds."

        移情表现自己的方式，虽然总是无处不在而且是毁灭性的，经常是微妙的。然而最清晰的那些例子却是不微妙的。其中的一个例子是一位由于他的移情作用而治疗失败的病人。他是一位才华横溢却并不成功的电脑技术员在他30多岁时，他来见我因为他的妻子离开了他，带着他们的两个孩子。他不是特别不快乐因她的离开，但是他深深依赖她。带着重新得到他们的希望他开始了心理治疗，因为他的妻子坚决声明她永远不会回到他身边除非他已经接受了心理治疗。她对他的主要抱怨是他总是不断地和不理性地嫉妒她，但同时又疏远她，冷漠的、疏远的、沉默寡言的、没有感情的。她还抱怨他频繁更换工作。 他自青春期以来的生活一直非常不稳定。在青春期，他经常与警察发生轻微的争吵，并被判入狱三次因为酗酒、斗殴、"游荡"和“妨碍警官的公务”。他大学辍学了，他在那里学习电气工程，因为，如他所说，“我的老师们是一群伪君子，与警察很不一样。”因为他在计算机技术领域的才华和创造性，行业对他的服务需求量很大。但他从未能升职或保住工作超过1年半，偶尔被解雇，更经常是与上司发生争执后辞职，他称之为“说谎者和骗子，只对保住他们自己的位子感兴趣。”他最经常的表述是“你不能相信一个该死的灵魂 。"他描述他的童年为"正常"而他的父母为"一般"。在短暂的时间里，他陪伴着我，然而，他漫不经心地讲述了无数的事例，在他的童年时期，他的父母让他失望了。他们答应在他的生日给他一辆自行车，但是他们经常经常忘记了而给他其它东西。有一次他们完全忘记了他的生日，但他并没有看到什么大问题因为“他们太忙了。” 很多次他们忘记从会议或聚会上接他因为“他们有很多想法。"