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作者: 教书匠阿伦 | 来源:发表于2019-07-16 07:54 被阅读0次

The ability to make friends doesn’t come naturally to everyone, more so for some school-going students who may struggle to make a connection with their peers in school. Despite being social creatures, social skills are learnt and tend to get better with time and practice.

To boot, friendships can be tricky – some are formed out of survival, some out of convenience, while the rest may be based on mutual connection and affection. Despite that, friendships play a major role in the mental and personal health of students, making it important for parents and teachers to pay attention too. So how can parents and teachers help students who struggle to make friends in school? Here are some suggestions:

并不是每个人生来就具备交友能力，特别是对正在上学的学生来说，他们可能很难与学校里的同龄人建立友谊。虽然人是社会性动物，但社交技能需要后天习得，它会在日积月累的锻炼中得到提升。

而且，友谊具有多面性——有些人为了生活交朋友，有些人为了方便交朋友，还有的人因为彼此欣赏和愿意交往而成为朋友。即便如此，父母和老师也要关注学生的友谊关系，因为它对学生的心理健康和个人成长至关重要。那么，对于那些在学校很难交到朋友的学生来说，父母和老师该怎样帮助他们呢？以下几条建议可供参考：

Parents

As one of the first few people students learn their social skills from, parents can really help children improve their social skills. For instance, Cleveland Clinic notes that parents can help their kids by:

父母

父母是孩子学习社交技能的第一任导师，可以真正帮助他们提高社交技能。以克利夫兰医学中心为例，如下建议可供参考：

Observing how they socialise

This includes how he/she socialises in school versus at home, and questioning the difference in the behaviour.

观察孩子的社交方式

包括他/她在学校和家里的社交方式，并辨别过程中的行为差异。

Modelling positive social behaviour

Every interaction with a friend, neighbour or family member serves as an opportunity for parents to teach their child how to socialise with others in different social situations.

塑造积极的社会行为

父母可以利用与朋友、邻居或家庭成员的每一次互动来教育孩子，培养他们在不同社交场合与他人的社交能力。

Giving your child a head start

This includes letting your child acclimatise to their new environment before more people show up. For example, you may want to let your child take some solo tennis lessons prior to joining a class to build up his or her confidence.

让孩子赢在起跑线上

在孩子与群体相处之前，培养他们适应新环境的能力。例如，可以让孩子在上集体课前参加一些一对一的网球课程，帮助孩子建立自信心。

Teachers

Students spend a significant amount of time in school, which means teachers can use this opportunity to help students build their social skills. The Conversation notes that teachers can do this by:

老师

学生有很多时间是在学校度过的，这就意味着老师可以在这个时间里对学生的社交技能进行培养。《对话》（The Conversation）提出的如下建议可供参考：

Providing more opportunities for students to interact

Students tend to break into cliques but by having more activities or opportunities for students to play and work together, they can slowly forge new friendships and be exposed to working alongside different classmates.

为学生提供更多的互动机会

更多的活动和一起娱乐、学习的时间可以帮助学生打破原有的交际圈，建立新友谊，和其他同学进行协作。