为方便家长们学到最原汁原味的正面管教知识，我从国外找来一些资料，以下为正面管教英文站的译文 （谷歌在线直译的） ：

正面管教的五个标准

1、善良和坚定同时。 （尊重和鼓励）

2、帮助孩子感受归属感和意义 。 （连接）

3、有效的长期 。 （惩罚是短期的，但长期结果是负面的。）

4、教导宝贵的社交和生活技能，使其具有良好的品格。 （尊重，关心他人，解决问题，问责，贡献，合作）

5、邀请孩子们发现他们是多么的能力 ，并以建设性的方式运用他们的个人力量。

正面管教的家长教育和课堂管理模式旨在发展相互尊重的关系。 正面管教教导成年人同时使用善良和坚定，既不是惩罚性的，也不是宽容的。

正面管教的工具和概念包括：

相互尊重。 成年人通过尊重自己和情况的需要来塑造坚定性，并通过尊重孩子的需要来表达善意。

识别行为背后的信念 。 有效的纪律认识到孩子做他们所做的事情的原因，并努力改变这些信念，而不仅仅是试图改变行为。

有效的沟通和解决问题的能力。

教导的学科（既不宽容也不惩罚）。

专注于解决方案而不是惩罚。

鼓励 （而不是表扬）。 鼓励通知努力和改进，而不仅仅是成功，并建立长期的自尊和赋权。

正面管教模式的独特特征还包括：

通过体验活动教授成人和学生。 创造练习新技能的机会，并通过实践获得乐趣。

课堂纪律课程和家长教育课程是一致的。 家长，教师和儿童保育提供者可以共同努力，为儿童提供安全，一致的环境。

廉价的培训和持续的支持，使社区成员可以互相教授正面管教技能。

全国各地的认证培训师 ，可以与学校和社区合作。

以下为英文原文：

FIVE CRITERIA FOR POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

Is Kind and Firm at the same time. (Respectful and encouraging)

Helps children feel a sense of Belonging and Significance . (Connection)

Is Effective Long-Term . (Punishment works short term, but has negative long-term results.)

Teaches valuable Social and Life Skills for good character. (Respect, concern for others, problem-solving, accountability, contribution, cooperation)

Invites children to discover how Capable they are and to use their personal power in constructive ways.

The Positive Discipline Parent Education and Classroom Management models are aimed at developing mutually respectful relationships. Positive Discipline teaches adults to employ kindness and firmness at the same time, and is neither punitive nor permissive.

The tools and concepts of Positive Discipline include:

Mutual respect. Adults model firmness by respecting themselves and the needs of the situation, and kindness by respecting the needs of the child.

Identifying the belief behind the behavior . Effective discipline recognizes the reasons kids do what they do and works to change those beliefs, rather than merely attempting to change behavior.

Effective communication and problem solving skills.

Discipline that teaches (and is neither permissive nor punitive).

Focusing on solutions instead of punishment.

Encouragement (instead of praise). Encouragement notices effort and improvement, not just success, and builds long-term self-esteem and empowerment.

Unique characteristics of the Positive Discipline Model also include:

Teaching adults and students through experiential activities. Creating opportunity to practice new skills and to have fun learning by doing.

Classroom discipline programs and parent education programs that are consistent. Parents, teachers, and childcare providers can work together to provide a secure, consistent environment for children.

Inexpensive training and ongoing support so members of communities can teach each other Positive Discipline skills.

Certified trainers across the country who can work with schools and communities.

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更详细的内容可以参考一个早期学习正面管教网友分享的有相正向管教的内容《正面管教》