为方便家长们学到最原汁原味的正面管教知识，我从国外找来一些正面管教资料。以下为正面管教英文站的译文（注：本人英文水平有限，以下内容是谷歌在线直译得来的，欢迎英语水平好的家长校正，我只是知识里的搬运工），更多详细的内容可以参考早期学习正面管教网友分享的正面管教揭密内容。

正面管教：当孩子们击中

问题：

你好。 我有两本书，但都没有解决我们的问题。 关于打击你的主题说：“当你的学龄前儿童打你，决定你会做什么，而不是试图控制你的孩子。让她知道，每次她打你，你会离开房间，直到她准备好对你在你告诉她这一次之后，一言不发。立刻离开“。 问题是，如果我试图这样做，我的儿子会把我（和他的父亲）赶出房间，一直打。 如果没有他，我就不能离开。 如果我将他移除（接他），他就会踢和尖叫，如果我把他锁进去的话，他只会呆在某个地方。我怎么接近这个？ 感谢您的时间。 卡罗琳

回答：

嗨Caroline，我和我的一个孩子一起经历了同样的挑战，并使用了Dreikurs所说的“浴室技术”。 我会去洗手间锁门。 （如果你决定这样做，请务必阅读一本好书。）我第一次这样做时，我认为Dreikurs很疯狂，因为我的孩子（其中两个）跟着我，正在敲门。 一个人甚至在门下滑了一张便条。 然而，我一言不发地坚持了下来，很快他们便离开了。 下次他们不尊重地对待我（老实说不记得他们做了什么 - 很久以前 - 显示它有多么不重要），我又去了洗手间。 这次孩子们没有跟着我，他们停止了他们的不端行为。

这项工作有两个技巧：

在平静的时间，让他们提前知道你将要做什么。 （也许在家庭会议期间。）

当你坚持到底不说一句话。 没有讲座。 没有威胁。 让他们有自己的感受。

如果您说出来就意味着它，并且如果您的意思是，那么您将会花费很长时间才能了解它。 对于他们来说，这是一个很好的模式，关于如何尊重自己，而不是试图改变别人。

When Children Hit

Question:

Hello. I have two of your books and neither quite addresses our issue. On the topic of hitting you say: "When your preschooler hits you, decide what you will do instead of trying to control your child. Let her know that every time she hits you, you will leave the room until she is ready to treat you respectfully. After you have told her this once, follow through without any words. Leave immediately". The thing is, if I try to do this, my son chases me (and his dad) out of the room, hitting all the while. I cannot leave without him hot on my heels. If I remove him (pick him up), he is kicking and screaming and will only stay somewhere if I lock him in. How do I approach this? Thank you for your time. Caroline

Answer:

Hi Caroline, I experienced the same challenge with one of my children and used what Dreikurs called "the bathroom technique." I would go to the bathroom and lock the door. (If you decide to do this, be sure to have a good book to read.) The first time I did this I thought Dreikurs was nuts because my kids (two of them) followed me and were pounding on the door. One even slipped a note under the door. However, I stuck it out without saying a word, and pretty soon they went away. The next time they treated me disrespectfully (honestly can't remember what they did—it was so long ago—which shows how unimportant it was), I went to the bathroom again. This time the kids didn't follow me and they stopped their misbehavior.

There are two tricks to making this work:

During a calm time, let them know in advance what you are going to do. (Maybe during a family meeting .)

When you follow through don't say a word. No lectures. No threats. Just let them have their feelings.

It doesn't take them long to learn that if you say it you mean it, and if you mean it, you will follow through. This is a great model for them about how to treat themselves respectfully instead of trying to change someone else.

更多详细的内容可以参考早期学习正面管教网友分享的正面管教揭密内容。