Julian Treasure: How to speak so that people want to listen （视频链接 ↓↓↓）
特别爱听这个英国佬光头说话，之前#每周一TED#里有他的“如何倾听”，这次是“如何说话”。简单、明了、实用.......
The human voice: It's the instrument we all play. It's the most powerful sound in the world, probably. It's the only one that can start a war or say "I love you." And yet many people have the experience that when they speak, people don't listen to them. And why is that?How can we speak powerfully to make change in the world?
为啥你说话没人听？这是为什么？怎么才能让你说的话更有力量？
七宗罪：
1. Gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who's not present.Not a nice habit, and we know perfectly well the person gossiping, five minutes later, will be gossiping about us. （别再八卦了，特别是在厕所八卦老板，你怎么知道她就不在你旁边的那个坑～）
2. Judging.We know people who are like this in conversation, and it's very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you're being judged and found wanting at the same time. （就是给人贴标签吧，你都否定我了，我TM还能跟你好好交谈么？）
3. Negativity.You can fall into this.My mother, in the last years of her life, became very negative, and it's hard to listen.I remember one day, I said to her, "It's October 1 today,"and she said, "I know, isn't it dreadful?" It's hard to listen when somebody's that negative.（这个例子很幽默。消极的人、时时刻刻传递负面情绪的人，是很难受欢迎的。更糟的是，这种情绪还会传染，慢慢把身边的人都变得消极起来。）
4. Complaining.Well, this is the national art of the U.K. It's our national sport.We complain about the weather, sport, about politics, about everything, but actually, complaining is viral misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world.（这回理解什么叫“its our national sport”了，之前在英国人家里吃饭，主人问我味道怎么样？我说great.nice...主人说，你肯定是虚伪的美国人。这话怎么接，怎么接，，，黑人问号表情包！）
5. Excuses.We've all met this guy.Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blamethrower.They just pass it on to everybody else and don't take responsibility for their actions,and again, hard to listen to somebody who is being like that. （迟到就迟到，要学会道歉。别动不动就找借口，什么车堵了、闹肚子了、老婆生了......）
6. Lying, the sixth of the seven,embroidery, exaggeration.It demeans our language, actually, sometimes.For example, if I see something that really is awesome,what do I call it? And then, of course, this exaggeration becomes lying,and we don't want to listen to people we know are lying to us.(不爱说谎的人，我们爱真诚的人。)
7. Dogmatism.The confusion of facts with opinions.When those two things get conflated,you're listening into the wind.You know, somebody is bombarding you with their opinions as if they were true.It's difficult to listen to that.（固执己见的人，把他们的观念强加给你，会让人非常反感。）
好了，七宗罪讲完。那出路、办法在哪里？只要我们坚持以下这四件事情：
1.诚实 Honesty/ being true in what you say, being straight and clear.
2.真实 Authenticity/ just being yourself.A friend of mine described it as standing in your own truth,which I think is a lovely way to put it.
3.诚信 Integrity/ being your word,actually doing what you say,and being somebody people can trust.
4.爱 Love/ I don't mean romantic love,but I do mean wishing people well
打开我们声音的工具箱
运用声音的工具箱：6把利器如下
1. Register, 音域 We vote for politicians with lower voices, it's true,because we associate depth with power and with authority.That's register.（这个很有意思，低沉的声音代表着权威。会更让人信服。其实，择偶也是一样，有人做过专门的调研，姑娘们对低沉男声，更有兴趣。）
2. Then we have timbre.音色 It's the way your voice feels. Again, the research shows that we prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm,like hot chocolate.Well if that's not you, that's not the end of the world,because you can train.Go and get a voice coach.And there are amazing things you can do with breathing, with posture, and with exercises to improve the timbre of your voice.
3.Then prosody. 韵律 I love prosody.This is the sing-song, the meta-language that we use in order to impart meaning.It's root one for meaning in conversation.People who speak all on one note are really quite hard to listen to if they don't have any prosody at all.That's where the word "monotonic" comes from,or monotonous, monotone. （我理解的就是抑扬顿挫，一个人说话总在一个调上没有变化，简直就是催眠。monotonic 即 boring）
4.Pace 语速 I can get very excited by saying something really quickly,or I can slow right down to emphasize, and at the end of that, of course, is our old friend silence. There's nothing wrong with a bit of silence in a talk, is there? We don't have to fill it with ums and ahs.It can be very powerful. (我发觉演讲的时候，越是紧张越是语速快，因为一心想把话赶紧说完。其实，适当的停顿，舒缓的语速，更能打动人。)
5.Pitch often goes along with paceto indicate arousal 音调 不同音调的话语具有不同的意思
6. Volum 音量 Some people broadcast the whole time.Try not to do that.That's called sodcasting, （sod is something or someone considered unpleasant or difficult,想象一下地铁里大妈招呼座位时候的吆喝，恨不得9节车厢全听到。 unpleasant至极!）
接着，讲者谈到了每次说话前，warm up 的具体方法。（真是个技能get的密集的演讲，有个小技巧，有兴趣的可以戳视频。这也是开嗓的好方法哦～ ）
把观众都搞得high起来之后。拔升意义的内容来了：
What would the world be like if we were speaking powerfully to people who were listening consciously in environments which were actually fit for purpose?
Or to make that a bit larger,what would the world be like if we were creating sound consciously and consuming sound consciously and designing all our environments consciously for sound?
That would be a world that does sound beautiful,and one where understanding would be the norm,and that is an idea worth spreading.
世界将会是怎样，如果我们有意识地说话，有意识地倾听，并且有意识地针对声音来设计我们的周围环境？那会是一个听起来非常美丽的世界，在那儿，理解会是常态。
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