This feeling of being valuable is a cornerstone of self-discipline because when one considers oneself valuable one will take care of oneself in all ways that are necessary.Self-discipline is self-caring.For instance--since we are discussing the process of delaying gratification,of scheduling and ordering time--let us examine the matter of time.If we feel ourselves valuable,then we will feel our time to be valuable,and if we feel our time to be valuable,then we will want to use it well.The financial analyst who procrastinated did not value her time.If she had,she would not have allowed herself to spend most of her day so unhappily and unproductively.It was not without consequence for her that throughout her childhood she was "farmed out" during all school vacations to live with paid foster parents although her parents could have taken care of her perfectly well had they wanted to. They did not value her.They did not want to care for her.So she grew up feeling herself to be of little value,not worth caring for;therefore she did not care for herself.She did not feel she was worth disciplining herself.Despite the fact that she was an intelligent and competent woman she required the most elementary instruction in self-discipline because she lacked a realistic assessment of her own worth and the value of her own time.Once she was able to perceive her time as being valuable,it naturally followed that she wanted to organize it and protect it and make maximum use of it.
这种价值感是自律的基石是因为当一个人觉得自己是有一个有价值的人时将以一切必要的方式照顾自己。自律就是自我关怀。比如--既然我们在讨论延时满足的过程，关于调度和安排时间--让我们来审查一下时间问题。如果我们觉得我们自己是有价值的，然后我们才会觉得我们的时间是宝贵的,如果我们觉得我们的时间是宝贵的，那么我们就想好好利用它。那个拖延症的金融分析师没有珍惜她的时间。如果她珍惜时间了，她就不会允许她自己如此不快乐和无效率的度过她一天中的大部分时间。这对她来说并非毫无意义因为在整个童年时期，她在学校放假期间都被“放养”生活在有偿养父母那里即使她的父母可以好好照顾她如果他们愿意的话。他们不重视她。他们不想照顾她。因此她长大后觉得自己没有什么价值，不值得被照顾，因此她不会自己照顾自己。她觉得自己不应该约束自己。尽管她是一个聪明能干的女人但她需要最基本的自我指导因为她缺乏对自己价值和自己时间价值的现实评估。一旦她意识到她的时间是有价值的，自然而然的，她就会想要组织它，保护它和最大化的利用它。
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