Delaying Gratification
Not too long ago a thirty–year–old financial analyst was complaining to me over a period of months about her tendency to procrastinate in her job. We had worked through her feelings about her employers and how they related to feelings about authority in general,and to her parents specifically.We had examine her attitudes toward work and success and how these related to her marriage,her sexual identity,her desire to compete with her husband,and her fears of such competition. Yet despite all this standard and painstaking psychoanalytic work,she continued to procrastinate as much as ever.Finally,one day,we dared to look at the obvious. "Do you like cake?"I asked her. She replied that she did." Which part of the cake do you like better,"I went on,"the cake or the frosting?""Oh,the frosting!"she responded enthusiastically. "And how do you eat a piece of cake?"I inquired, feeling that I must be the most inane psychiatrist that ever lived. "I eat the frosting first,of course,"she replied. From her cake–eating habits we went on to examine her work habits,and,as was to be exceped, discovered that on any given day she would devote the first hour to the more gratifying half of her work and the remaining six hours getting around to the objectionable remainder. I suggested that if she were to force herself to accomplish the unpleasant part of her job during the first hour,she would then be free to enjoy the other six. It seemed to me,I said,that one hour of pain followed by six of pleasure was preferable to one hour of pleasure followed by six of pain. She agreed,and,being basically a person of strong will,she no longer procrastinates.
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