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Your 2-year-old now / 你两岁多孩子的现状
Your life now / 你现在的生活
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Your 2-year-old now / 你两岁多孩子的现状

Most of the time, your preschooler is probably a happy kid. But did you know that very young children can get stressed out, too? Common stressors for preschoolers include having too many planned activities, the lack of a stable routine, feeling sick, a move, a separation from a beloved caregiver, or the arrival of a new sibling. Some signs a child is feeling pushed or stressed:
大多数时候，你两岁多的孩子是一个快乐的孩子。但是你知道吗，很小的孩子也会有压力？ 两岁多的孩子常见的压力来源包括：有太多的计划性的活动、缺乏稳定的日常生活常规、感觉不舒服、搬家、与心爱的照顾者的分离焦虑，或者有新的兄弟姐妹的降生。以下这些迹象表明两岁多的孩子感到被压迫或有压力：

• She suddenly seems withdrawn and disinterested in things.
  她突然变得孤僻，对什么事都不感兴趣。
• There's a change in her personality, especially from sunny to
  sullen or angry.
  孩子性格发生了变化，特别是从阳光变成了闷闷不乐或者生气。
• She resists when it's time to go play.
  该去玩耍的时候孩子总是拒绝。
• She insists she wants to "go home" when you've just arrived at a new place.
  当你刚到达一个新地方的时候，孩子就坚持说想"回家"。
• Her toilet-training progress seems to regress (daytime accidents after several weeks or months without any, for example).
  孩子学会上厕所的进展，似乎有所倒退（例如，几周或几个月没有任何意外后，白天上厕所发生意外)。

Give your child extra TLC during stressful times. Reassess what's going on in her life and see if you can put more security and stability back into it. For example, if you think the problem might be too much activity (and all the related rushing and nagging), scale back your plans.
在孩子感到压力的时候，你要给予孩子特别的关爱。重新评估孩子的生活，看看你是否能给孩子带来更多的安全感和稳定感。例如，如果你认为问题可能是安排了太多的活动(以及因此导致的手忙脚乱唠叨，那么你就要缩减你的计划。

(译者插播：scale back是一个好词，今天(2019-05-18)有个新闻就是“The US may scale back restrictions on China’s Huawei”，读者可以自行搜索学习)

Your life now / 你现在的生活

Here's a way to break a behavior you don't like, whether it's playing with food, whining, or screaming: Look the other way. Child development experts call this "ignoring to extinction." Sometimes it's your lively annoyed reaction that a child is really after when she misbehaves in a way she knows you don't like. If you try this strategy, beware: You might first get a so-called "extinction burst," where the behavior escalates for while. That happens because your child is working all the harder to see if she can get a rise out of you. Keep on ignoring and the behavior is likely to go the way of the dinosaur.
这里有一种方法可以打破你不喜欢的行为，无论你的孩子是在玩弄食物、发牢骚，还是尖叫：你朝另一个方向看（译者注：这里指绝对忽视孩子的任何不良行为）。儿童发展专家把这个方法称之为“忽视灭绝”。有时候，孩子以一种你不喜欢的方式行为不端时，孩子真正想要的其实是你生气的反应。如果你尝试这种绝对忽视的方法，请注意：你可能首先会遇到所谓的“灭绝爆发”，即孩子的行为会在一段时间内变本加厉地闹。这是因为你的孩子在更努力地学习尝试，试探是否能从你身上得到想要的反应。你要继续忽视，之后，这种行为就会会重蹈恐龙的覆辙了（译者注：意思是灭绝了，不再折腾了）。

来源：https://www.babycenter.com/6_your-31-month-old-preschooler-stress_10329750.bc

译者：吴和平

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