It is universally acknowledged that parents in possession of parenting wisdom must be in want of balancing between giving children the rights to make decisions and hold the rights to themselves.
give freedom or take freedom, that is a question, at least to parents
For responsible parents can take care their children and make all the decisions and for reasonable parents can give children freedom to make all decisions in their life, but the deep enlightenment, the constant inspiration united with powerful support, come best from those that give the limited right to their children and give advice and make decision when their children encounter straits or life-changing events.
Either because of the children have a sense of freedom in their life path, or because they have the shelter of their parent's advice and wisdom, this balance, fully taking children's pursuit of freedom to choose their life and children's unmaturity into consideration, gave both children and parents safe space and maintained an intimate but not threatening tie between them as itvm stretches its favorable length from one family to another. Any relationship, deprived of freedom and matual-respect, make each other in chains, and too much freedom, deprived of chance to give advices and offer support, will make both children and parents alienated to each other. So, vital and significant is the balance, which weigh heavily in the parents-children relationship.
Nothing distresses parents more than to see their children stray in wrong road, particularly when in the flower of their age, in the very season of pleasure, they waste their few short days of sunshine in boredom and idleness caused by two much freedom or feel stressed, and deprived the capacity to make their own choice resulted from lack of freedom to choose, and only perceive their error when it is too late to repair it. Similarly, nothing upsets the children more than to see themselves engaged in endless quarrel with their parents for rights and freedom or being completely neglected by their parents. With regard to the question of this clash, I would like to say balance is the best way out.
Giving freedom to children kept within its proper bounds may add greatly to their children's fecility, but as the sole means of parenting it leads to disaster inwardly if not outwardly. So does take freedom from the children. It is common in our days, as it has been in so many other period of the world history, to support that children need freedom to some degree, but not too much.
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